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After three long and stressful years of infertility I can honestly say I too am expecting! From Guatemala!

Thursday, August 18, 2005

Won't the baby miss their real mother?

This was the question asked by my six (going on 16) year old niece yesterday when I was explaining to her that J and I were adopting a baby and what adoption meant. I also told her the news last week as well and I figured that each time I see her we will have a little conversation about adoption so that she is prepared and understands when the time comes to bring the baby home. I thought this would be a good idea until she asked me the question. What a simple question yet complicated to answer. I did the best I could by telling her that of course the baby will miss their mommy but that I will be the baby's new mommy because the birth mommy was unable to care for the baby. I really felt awkward answering this question to a six year old but I figured I answered it somwhat ok. I decided that we would not discuss it everytime we saw each other but that I was definatley going to prepare myself to answer such honest questions. I realized that just as I am trying to educate her I am educating myself.
Then she proclaims that if it's a boy she thinks we should call him Kozmo! This could only come from a six year old. I told her that Kozmo can be her nickname for him if we do get a boy.

1 Comments:

At 3:43 PM, Blogger Barb said...

Children often do have the most straight forward questions that really make us think. I'm sure this won't be the last time you are presented with such questions and even though they are hard to prepare for you may now think about them in a different light. My husband and I are also in the process of adoption a baby boy from Guatemala! I wish you all the best in your journey - you are doing a WONDERFUL thing!

 

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